Although things are not always going smoothly, there is a wonderful intangible vibe in Tanzanian villages…
One question (make it three!): Do people sound or feel ‘out of touch’ when they return to their home countries after spending some significant amount of years abroad? Or, it’s just that urge to bring about ‘change’ — quickly — in their societies that is perceived negatively? Who is to blame?
Don’t kill me; I am just a messenger!
‘who is to blame?’ is one of my least favorite questions. It prompts nothing constructive!
I think there are two other questions and you have the freedom to ask a better question… If all three prompt nothing constructive, again, your questions are more than welcomed.
These are important questions that I myself wrestle with in my daily life.
I think the fourth question that is prompted is about the society, and not about the returning individual: How can – if at all – society, after having moved in some kind of direction, embrace a child that has also been moving in some kind of direction?
There is that urge to bring change to your society, of course you will be out of place for few days. But a human being is modeled in adaptation and survival.
To air your views to your society is not a bad idea, even if your people would be hesitant to acknowledge.
I suppose if the change will change peoples lives for better then its OK rather to try to tell your people to start acknowledging that gay people are born that way rather than made (have I opened another pandora box?).
Mie naona tunapoishi nje miaka mingi tukarudi nyumbani sio kuwa tatizo ni tunataka maendeleo haraka sijui tumezowea staarehe nje ndo maana tunashindwa ku-fit in. Hamna, usikute kustahamilia dhiki bora aliyetoka nje kwa kuwa hajazowea ku complain (huko nje alikotoka hakuwa na wa kumshtakia shida zake)
Nafikiri unakuta zile values zako na way of thinking zinakuwa zimebadilika mno kulingana na jamii. What others think funny, wewe unaona miyeyusho tu, whats there to laugh about! Au unajikuta umekuwa liberal zaidi na ile jamii ya kiconservative huiwezi tena.
Hapa balaa linakuwa zaidi kwa wanawake kwa kuwa kwetu bado wanawake tunatakiwa tuwe submissive na tusiwe na voice yetu.